My husband used to ask me, “would you move to Japan?” He’d lived there for a year and enjoyed it. I always said, “no” or “I need to think about it.” At first, it was because we had little kids and I thought it would be too hard to move abroad. Or that I’d be too isolated. Something changed in me. Around a year ago, when he asked me if I would consider moving to Japan, I said, “yes.”
Would you move abroad?
I’ve said yes to every country he’s brought up. New Zealand? Yes. Chile? Yep. Mexico? Sure. I’ve even sought out people from Japan and Chile, as those two countries seemed to be very strong contenders. I want to visit both places, whether we live there or not. I’ve made some lovely friends in my research process!
Let’s be serious, I want to visit all four of those countries.
I am afraid that moving to a new country would be very isolating. However, I realized that when my children were younger, I felt very isolated here. It was hard for me to leave the house without them, even for a short time. My daughter was so young and separation was hard on her. Playdates with other moms were mostly spent chasing my children. Therefore, my social experiences were pretty unsatisfactory. My daughter also didn’t sleep enough for my taste (but it was enough for her!) Things are so much easier now, in some ways. I realized I could survive the feeling of being isolated.
Research for Japan started with finding the show “Departures” (which I have talked about here). I ended up loving the show and searching out travel blogs to read. There, I discovered that there are women who travel the world solo!
Then, the idea of living in Japan had to wait a year. In the meantime, we’ve slowly changed. He became open to other possibilities and opportunities. We discuss and learn and discuss even more. Moving abroad is not a decision we’ve taken lightly.
Though the more we talked, the more it seemed like we’d end up staying put. There are many factors that go into a decision like this, such as where would we work? What about family? And so forth.
I’ve surprised myself. When I started this blog, I believed we wouldn’t be moving. I can’t even wrap my head around leaving the US. How can I, a person who never even considered moving farther than 2 hours from my family, be okay with moving to another country? A country I’ve never even visited?
Because people can change. It’s usually a slow and complex process, but it can happen. That being said, we are not leaving the US at this time. I am, however, open to the idea!
Would you move abroad? Why or why not?