“Would move to Japan?” My husband starting asking, even before we were married.
“No,” I always answered.
It wasn’t because I didn’t like the idea. I found the idea terrifying.
My husband had lived in Japan for a year long before I met it and enjoyed it. He’d tell me amazing stories of late night karaoking while drinking sake in Tokyo. That man knows my heart.
“Would you move to Japan?” He asked again, about a year ago.
“Yes,” I responded. Surprise registered on his face. What had changed?
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Would you move abroad?
I’ve said yes to every country he’s brought up since then. Would I move to New Zealand? Yes. Chile? Yep. Mexico? Sure. I’ve even sought out people from Japan and Chile, as those two countries seemed to be very strong contenders. I want to visit both places, whether we live there or not. I’ve made some lovely friends in my research process!
Let’s be serious, I want to visit all four of those countries. And then a hundred more!
Would it be isolating?
I am afraid that moving to a new country would be very isolating. However, I realized that when my children were younger, I felt very isolated here (in the USA). It was hard for me to leave the house without them, even for a short time. My daughter was so young and separation was hard on her.
Playdates with other moms were mostly spent chasing my children. Therefore, my social experiences were unsatisfactory. My daughter also didn’t sleep enough for my taste (but it was enough for her!) Things are so much easier now, in some ways. I realized I could survive the feeling of being isolated.
Research for Japan started with finding the show “Departures”. I ended up loving the show and then I started searching for travel blogs to read. There, I discovered that there are women who travel the world solo!
Then, the idea of living in Japan had to wait a year. In the meantime, we’ve slowly changed. He became open to other possibilities and opportunities. We discuss and learn and discuss even more. Moving abroad is not a decision we’ve taken lightly.
Though the more we talked, the more it seemed like we’d end up staying put. There are many factors that go into a decision like this, such as where would we work? What about family? And so forth.
Now, I’m happily willing to move abroad
I’ve surprised myself. When I started this blog, I believed we wouldn’t be moving. Ever. I can’t even wrap my head around leaving the US. How can I, a person who never even considered moving farther than 2 hours from my family, be okay with moving to another country? A country I’ve never even visited?
Because people can change. It’s usually a slow and complex process, but it can happen.I discovered I want the adventure that moving abroad provides. It’s a way to explore a new country and culture, while still having stability (in the form of hopefully having an income).
That being said, we are not leaving the US at this time. However, I am now open to the idea!
Would you move abroad? Why or why not? In which country would you like to live?
2018 update: New here? You may or may not be surprised to find out that the Blissmersion family became expats in Mexico in May, 2017!